Archive for January, 2013

Choices… Part 4

Tuesday, January 29th, 2013

Here we are, back for part 4 in the “Life-Changing Choices Process” that’s going to make 2013 your best year ever.

Last week I left you with a comment to think about, and respond to, which was…

“Choices themselves, even though they’re life-changing… are not good or bad. They’re merely choices. We’re the ones who attach meaning to them and decide whether our choices mean something good or bad”.

We’re starting to dig in pretty deep now and the conversation taking place on the blog right now is getting very intense, which is a great thing because it shows that you’re engaged with this process.

In addition to all the incredible comments you made on the blog, I also got a private email from Calvin, and because it bears so heavily on this conversation, I had to share with you.

Here it is:

Great post (I agree with it)! But instead of barraging you with philosophical musings, I would like to ask you what steps you took to make a good meaning of past choices or regrets? Do you just brainstorm and pick ones that are good and forget the rest?

I’ll take the same example of a life changing choice I posted in your previous blog post: going to college.

– college meant financial debt

– college meant wasting 4 years studying something I wasn’t passionate about

– college meant wasting 4 years and being qualified for the same jobs as students from high school

– college meant gaining independence

– college meant learning to cut down on personal expenses

– college meant living poor so I can appreciate riches and luxury

– college meant learning to cook

– college meant sharpening my reading and writing skills

– college meant sharpening my public speaking skills

– college meant sharpening my interpersonal skills

– college meant stepping out of my comfort zone

– college meant trying new things

Is it as simple as telling yourself to forget the bad and remember the good?

Kind regards,
Calvin

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Here’s my reply:

Calvin

I LOVE your example. It’s not just remembering the good, but remembering what was not so good as well, and learning from it.

If we learn from it, then it transforms a bad experience into a good, or even a great experience.

Kevin

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In the simplest of terms, that’s how the “Life-Changing Choices Process” works.

We get to look at the results or consequences that arise from every choice we make, and actively decide how we’re going to respond to them.

We get to decide what meaning we’ll attach to the experience.

And ultimately, we get to decide how that choice will impact our life going forward.

We’re in complete control at all times.

So… as an example I’ll refer back to my DUI story.

When I first shared it on this blog April 5th of last year, it took every bit of courage I could muster in order to candidly talk about it.

I’d never talked openly in public about my DUI and was deathly scared of what people would think of me.

But as soon as I shared my DUI story on the blog, I received a flood of response that completely transformed the entire situation in an instant.

Sure, I learned some valuable lessons from the choice I’d made to drive after drinking, so I’d already transformed that choice on one level.

But sharing my story in this forum, and having it impact so many people in such a big way transformed the experience once again.

Not only did I get to learn from it, but I got to use the experience to impact other people’s lives for the better, and that was HUGE.

It was in that moment that I discovered the “Life-Changing Choices Process” I’m now sharing with you.

It took 15 years from the time I got my DUI to completely transform that choice into a good experience.

But once I’d done so, and understood how to do it, I now had the ability to transform any experience.

The trick lies in doing it as quickly as possible so we can have all the benefits that come from transforming every one of our choices into experiences that will serve us in the way we want.

I’m betting that you’ve already done this in your own life, and that being the case, would love to hear how you did it.

By sharing your comments you’ll be helping all the readers of this blog in a HUGE way, and that alone will transform any choice you’ve made into an incredible experience for you.

So go ahead, share with us because we can’t wait to hear (and learn from) your example of using the “Life-Changing Choices Process”.

Dedicated to your success,
Kevin Thompson
“The Automatic Income Coach”

Choices… Part 3

Tuesday, January 22nd, 2013

OK, so here’s the answer you’ve been waiting for since my last post.

Each of the 9 comments I shared with you in the last post come from people, who when sharing the life-changing choice they made, chose to share one they felt good about.

Except for Joe.

He told us of his choice to have an affair, and though he didn’t feel good about the actual life-changing choice he made, he still found and commented about the good that he felt came from the situation.

I’m going to suggest something controversial, and when I do, I expect to get comments from people who disagree with me (and that’s fine).

When I look at all the life-changing choices that were shared two weeks ago… I don’t see “good” and “bad” choices.

The choices themselves, even though they’re life-changing… are not good or bad.

They’re merely choices.

We’re the ones who attach meaning to them.

We’re the ones who decide that our choices mean something good or bad.

Last year on this blog, I openly shared my own story of how I got a DUI in 1997.

Talk about a life-changing choice!

Some would argue that was a bad choice on my part – and with all that transpired immediately following this particular choice, it could certainly be viewed that way.

And at the time, while I was in the midst of dealing with the fallout of my choice, I didn’t find a lot of good in it.

But today, as I look back on that life-changing choice, I can find lots of good in it.

And the reason I can find lots of good in it, is because I choose to attach good meaning to my DUI experience.

So…

If I can do that with my DUI choice, isn’t it safe to say that I can attach any meaning I want… to any choice I make?

I know, I know – we’re starting to dig in pretty deep now.

This is probably one of the most in-depth discussions I’ve ever hosted on this blog.

But I’m making a big, bold promise here in saying that I can walk you through a process that will make 2013 your best year ever.

And that’s exactly what we’re doing right now… going through the process.

So what say you?

Do you believe that we can attach whatever meaning we want to the choices we make?

Post your comments below, and once again, as soon as there’s enough feedback from you, I’ll be back to continue walking you through this process.

Dedicated to your success,
Kevin Thompson
“The Automatic Income Coach”

Choices… Part 2

Wednesday, January 16th, 2013

A couple weeks ago I explained how every single choice we make had had an impact on our life, and led us to where we are… right here… right now.

I then gave the opportunity to share a choice you’ve made that’s altered the course of your life.

My purpose in doing so was to get the feedback I needed from you, so I could in turn introduce you to a process I’ve discovered… that’s going to make 2013 your best year ever.

We’re going to start that process right now.

At the time I’m writing this, 68 of you took the time to share your experiences, and after reading every one of your comments, I have to say that I’m totally impressed by how open and candid you were.

You really laid it on the line and barred your soul for everyone else to see and benefit from.

For that – I applaud you.

Caryn told us how she realized the dream she’s had since she was 17 years old, to live in Paris France.

Andy told us how he left the oil and gas world to start an online business where he’s developed a social mobile app for smartphones.

Joel told us about his last minute choice to NOT join the Air Force led to meeting his incredible wife who he’s now been married to for 36 years.

Patricia shared her decision to bike across America at age 67 to raise money for charity.

Joe, who was a pastor, told us about his choice to have an affair and how that choice changed the course of his life forever.

Dee told us about her decision to rescue a dog from the shelter and how that dog completely changed her life.

Anna told us about the choice she made to work out the things in her life that were holding her back from meeting that special man, and once she did, the man of her dreams appeared in her life.

Debbie told us about her choice to stop smoking after she survived a heart attack and was given a second lease on life.

Victor told us about his choice in 1992 to leave a good paying job and take out $50,000.00 in student loans so he could pursue his dream of becoming a lawyer. In doing so, he also met his wife of 17 years (and counting) on his first day of law school.

I’ve briefly shared the choices of 9 people who posted their experiences on the blog.

Yet as I mentioned, there were many more of you who shared your life altering choices.

You can see all of the comments by Going Here (a new window will open so you don’t lose your spot on this page).

So…

My question, and my challenge to you is this…

Of all the comments on the blog, I chose to share 9 of them with you.

Why did I do that?

Of all the comments you posted, what made me choose these 9 to use as examples?

What do you think my reasoning is?

Post your comments below, and once again, as soon as there’s enough feedback from you, I’ll be back to continue walking you through this process so we can make 2013 your best year ever.

I’m REALLY looking forward to sharing this with you.

Dedicated to your success,
Kevin Thompson
“The Automatic Income Coach”

2013… The Year Of Choices

Thursday, January 3rd, 2013

Every decision we make, no matter how small we think it is at the time, changes the direction of our life.

Some examples include:

Whether or not to go to college.

Who we marry.

To drive after drinking, or not. (This one hits a personal chord for me, and I shared my entire DUI story right here on this blog last year).

To work for someone else or step out on our own.

Who we spend our time with.

Every single choice we make has an impact, and they’ve led us to where we are… right here… right now… today.

Let’s have some fun with this.

Share an example of a choice you’ve made that’s altered the course of your life.

I’m thinking that this will be the beginning of an incredible conversation, and you’ll want to keep checking back so you can stay in the loop.

As we continue moving forward, if this gets as interactive as I expect it to, I’ll be opening up and sharing some examples from my own life as well.

And as I do, I’m going to walk you through a process I’ve discovered that will set the stage for 2013 being your best year EVER.

So go ahead…

Get started now by posting your comment below.

Share one choice you’ve made that’s altered the course of your life.

I’m excited to hear from you, and introduce you to an incredible life-changing process.

As soon as I’ve heard from you and have enough comments to work from, I’ll be back to start walking you through the process.

Dedicated to your success,
Kevin Thompson
“The Automatic Income Coach”