From the time we were children, we’ve been taught that we’re supposed to fit in.
That we’re supposed to conform.
That we’re supposed to do things a certain way.
And if we don’t…
Well, we feel like an outsider. Like something is wrong with us.
This is exactly how I felt for most of my childhood.
Truth be told, I felt this way for most of my life.
It was only a few years ago when I came to discover that this entire way of thinking is completely ridiculous.
We DON’T have to fit in, conform, or do things a certain way.
In fact – we were put on this earth to be magnificent and unique.
This is one of the BIGGEST secrets that’s been kept from us.
But…
In order for you to actually be magnificent and unique, you have to come to terms with, and accept who you are as a person.
You must be yourself, complete with your faults and quirks.
And…
You must be completely candid about them, rather than trying to hide them.
When you do so, and interesting thing happens.
People find themselves being attracted to you, and they can’t even put their finger on why.
They feel compelled to get involved in what you have to offer.
They get to see you for the person you really are. The person you were put on this earth to be.
And they LIKE that magnificent and unique person.
People are always asking me, “how can I have the kind of life you get to live”?
But deep down, they’re really asking, “how can I have a more happy, productive and fulfilling life”?
The way you make this happen is by simply being yourself.
Sure, there’s some strategy involved as well, when it comes to marketing yourself.
But that’s just “how to”, and I can give you all the “how to” that you’ll ever need.
When you think back to every time in your life, when you were open, candid and just being yourself, you’ll recall that good things came from it.
When you’re in this natural state, of you being you, only good can come from it.
As you’re reading this, and a specific event comes to mind for you, please do me the favor of sharing it.
Your words of wisdom can make all the difference in the world for anyone who has the opportunity to hear it.
Dedicated to your success,
Kevin Thompson
“The Automatic Income Coach”
Really interesting words of which I fully concur. Some current reading have led me to find that many who “get there” find that in “getting there” have gone up the food chain of wanting MORE and when obtained wanting BIGGER and then wanting DIFFERENT as ways of “attainment”. And then comes the realization of What’s Next? And those who get past the greed/want/Keep-up-with-Jonses mind set, seek PUPPOSE. Kevin has obviously found his Purpose – I’m looking for mind and think via Kevin, I too will solidify my direction.
glenn P.
I recall myself during a outing with a fellow group of ET travlers. We were visiting a hopi site and my friend and I opened our heart centers creating a field of energy between us. As we stood apart anyone standing between us got there heart center open by the energy. We all found that the site was more special to us than we knew.
I miss my chance to be happy with that person and could have had a happier life had I done so. It has taught me to follow my own instints. Yet I am content with my soul and that is what is inportant at the moment.
Each of us have something to give to the world, that is why we are here, find it and be the best you can be.
Blessing in the Light of our Radiant One
Richard G Mynett
Looking forward to hearing from you Kevin
Conformity for the sake of “fitting in”. at the sacrifice of one’s individual gifts, is, indeed, to be condemned. However, consideration for others, courtesy, and a genuine empathy will help your individual gifts to be considered and evaluated by others far more readily, rather than having your personality defects cause other people to reject you out of hand, without giving your unique gifts the consideration they reserve. Don’t become another example of the “McNamara syndrome”!
hey Kevin! I like this! Makes you think about your self and what to do too become better, You know your self you have to be happy and trust in your self before anything will work! The way you make this happen is by simply being yourself! I have to work on that, I’m always Putting everyone before me and being degrading about ME! That needs too change, THANKS
Some years ago I applied for a promotion to a supervisor role at work. After being coached in what to say, how to act, etc by a well-meaning manager, I did not perform or come across well in the interview and did not get the job. A few months later a better supervisor position opened up. I went to the interview with no preparation other than the previous interviewers’ feedback to me, and nailed it, just being myself and saying exactly what I thought at the time. No rehearsed scripts. I got the job.
i am one of your older listeners and this subject really hit home. When I grew up being left handed was considered horrible. You were always told go sit over there so you can’t cheat. Figure it out for yourself. Lots of remarks ubbelievable in this day. I made up my mind I was going to ignore them all but it took 80 years to thumb my nose and and dance to my own music. I promised myself for all the time I have left I would dance with rings on my fingers and bells on my toes. Thanks for the good words
Dear Kevin~
I searched for a long time trying to find a niche that I was comfortable with, so I could market it on the internet. But everything I found took me out of being myself, which is what you are writing about here. Finally one day, a man who was helping me learn internet marketing, asked me if I had any pains in my life, past or present. I told him I had arthritis in every joint in my body and if I didn’t take my daily solution, the pain literally crippled me. “That’s it,” he screamed, you just found your niche.”
I never thought about it, but the research I had done into arthritis to find how to live the rest of my life without pain, is exactly what allows me to write articles and web site pages, being me. I can talk from experience and knowledge, sort of like, “here’s what I did….chances are darn good the same thing will work for you.” My whole site, which is still under construction, is nothing more than a testimonial for the product I found that removes the inflammation from my joints and lets me be pain free. I do not sell anyone anything…..I share with people something that works. It’s a very passive process. If they understand what I explain that causes their pain, and then how my product attacks that cause, there’s no selling needed.
My pain became my niche. And the solutions I had found became my products. What a beautiful way to be me in showing other people how to solve their arthritis pain problems.
Wayne Olson
Chicago
I agree with just be yourself! When I decided to go back to work after raising my 3 daughters to the ages of 14, 12 and 10 years of age, I took a refresher course in Business Admin and English. My husband had been transferred to Ottawa, Canada and the prices of homes was quite expensive. We decided to purchase a larger house in the fringe country of Ottawa. I wasn’t used to living in the Country as I was born and raised in Montreal. When I told my husband I was taking some courses to eventually go back to work, he possibly thought I wouldn’t do it. I did though, and because we did not know people in Ottawa, Ontario except for the people who moved with us, I was bored, then the mortgage rates went up to 18% for a couple of years, I knew I had to work! With 3 kids to go to college, and possible weddings I wanted to help out financially. After doing well in my courses, I went to an Agency to find work. They sent me to a Museum to work, and I got along just great with the people there. My boss was a super nice guy and the boss over him came from Montreal so we had something in common.
I worked in a purchasing section and purchased items for the Boutique Store in the Museum plus other items for the Managers in the Museum. My direct boss came up to me one day and told me he wanted to talk to me privately in his office at lunch. He advised me he was going to retire in 2 years and that both he and his boos wanted me
to go for further training because the Corporation was disbanding and our Museum was going to move to Hull, Que. and my job would change immensely with much more Supervisory work. I asked him what courses he wanted me to take to get approved for the Board.
When the Board came for my boses job..there were 5 people trying out for the job….all men except for me…It was a tie between a man who worked for another Museum and myself. I felt the man would get the job, but my boss said he was being investigated, simply because they knew I was valuable to the Corporation. After 2 weeks I found out I had won the position. All my work to get where I wanted to be at the time was rewarded and I felt good about it. I always had a very positive attitude and I know that helped me out a great deal.
I took additional courses learned French and worked at the Museum with many changes to my initial position over the following 18 years, until I retired. I ran a contracting office with 6 permanent staff and 2 summer students every year. It was a very interesting place to work.
As a road safety consultant and an Inventor with over 56 years experience, I know what my
mission in life is.
To reduce road accidents by 75% at night, and bring about a massive saving on the energy consumption with the use of the power of reflectivity.
With many ideas in other fields, to help all motorists, cyclists, businesses, home owners and all mankind with new methods to achieve a superior service, better conditions and to create millions of jobs.
Yours truly and safely malcolm. Harrogate N Yorkshire. 01423 564758.
Hey Kevin Thompson,
You are absolutly right,just be yourself and live only your own life.
there is a saying of a wise man:”
roadblocks inside of us called “limiting beliefs”
and that if we can get past them, we can succeed –
not just in business, but in each and every area
of our lives. Wow
It is true what you are saying, and I always do what I think I should, i love people and I trust them, even though they think I am naive, and they step on me..I always say diana you should become like them be selfish and care about yourself, but I beleive what goes around comes around..lol, maybe truly I am naive, I am still waiting for good things to come around, I am unemployed and I will be homeless if I don’t find a job soon, I am 55 years old and all my life I treated people the way I wanna be treated, but guess what, I was treated the way I was supposee to treat those people…but I can’t change, I have the heart of a baby, who knows what destiny is hidding for me?????????????
DEAR KEVIN
I WAS ON MY WAY HOME AFTER WORK FROM MY SECOND JOB AS I HAD JUST GOT DIVORCED AND MY EX HUSBAND WANTED ME TO BEG FOR THE MONEY THE JUDGE HAD ORDERED HIM TO PAY ME I HAD JUST DROPPED MY FRIEND OFF AT HER HOUSE WHEN I GOT TO THE INTERSECTION THE LIGHT WAS GREEN AND I WENT HALF WAY THROUGH WHEN A BUICK ELECTRA RAN THE RED LIGHT AND HIT MY LITTLE MAVRICK ON MY DOOR SENDING ME TO THE PASSENGER SIDE I LOST ALL MY TEETH TOP AND BOTTOM AND MY BACK WAS HURT SO BAD THEY SAID I WAS NEVER GOING TO WALK AGAIN BUT THE LORD IS ALLMIGHTY AND I WOULD GET OUT OF THE BED BY SLIDING DOWN THE SIDE OF THE BED AND GOT ON MY KNEES AND FIANLLY I WOULD CRWL TO THE HALL AND WITH MY BACK TO THE WALL I WOULD SLIDE ONE FOOT AT A TIME AS I HAD FOUR YEAR TWINS WAITING FOR ME AT HOME AND THE OTHER FIVE PLUSE MY MOTHER WAS HELPING ME AND HERE I’M TODAY I NOT ONLY WALK I CAN RUN A LITTLE
Just be yourself yes I always was told be no one else but with all the emotions I take on sometimes they would drown me completely particuly family and close ones.I DO FIT OUTSIDE THE BOX TRYING TO get People to say yes my story i am differnet its okay to be that however need to respect others where they are also on their journey .I AM ME NOT DIFFERENT JUST UNIQUE BUT LOVE ALL THAT I BE,SURE I MORE THAN LIKELY RUFFLED MANY FEATHERS DURING MY LIFE AND TOOK ON BOARD ALL THOSE DISAPPROVALS AND ANYTHING ELSE IN emotions that was me however Since going in and finding that my God does love me warts and all, WE OWN ALL THE PARTS OF US THAT MEANS THE GOOD THE BAD AND THE UGLY THEN WE ARE AS WE ARE BEAUTIFUL MAGNIICENT, LOVING SOUL, THAT COMES FROM INSIDE OUT MAYBE NOT THE MODEL YOU SAW BUT THE ONE IN THE MIRROR THAT LOOKS BACK AT YOU SAYS I LOVE YOU, OWN ALL OF HER HIM AND WHAT EVER ELSE YOU ARE, THANK YOU FOR YOUR LOVE HAVE WONDERFUL DAY GOD BLESS XX
Hi Kevin,
Yes, this is a big one you nailed I believe is a lot of everyone inside.
when I was young fitting in was hard got told go join in have fun but that did not always work, I was not good or fast enough or I felt I was not liked. Well over the years past I decided to be some one it took time yes nothing over night for sure but I felt different to me from others, I was more of a thinker then doer, which has paid off today more as I get many people coming to me for advice,should of been a phygologist, lol I seen a few who (you know the ones in school who they rate as most who going to succeed and so on,,,) well I never got to be one of them but today I met a few over the years from school that were and believe me they never fit in those shoes today. I may have been slower then, but today I am very different I am ME!! lol I have a great career and believe me its what I am basing this program on I am a caregiver and been blessed well just need to get more information up to build my website to share with and help others. Thanks,
I am confused. I think the first step to take is find out who I really am. I have no clue who am I and what is unique about myself. I think I need someone to help me find out who I am and the journey can start from there. All I know is that I am a very sensitive, and caring person. I love helping people, but most of the times these people I helped never show appreciation. When someone is need of my help and I cannot provide that help, I feel guilty and it bothers me so much. The only problem is that I cannot even help myself financially so how can I help those who need my assistance emotionally, physically,and financially? anyhow, I plan to struggle and help myself out of the water before I can lend my hand to those who needed my help.
Hi Kevin,
Your ‘Just Be Yourself’ made an interesting reading and there’s a lot of truth in your assertion. But Kevin, am just wondering whether to be yourself means being a non conformist, ego-centric, non-empathetic, insensitive or a steamroller sort of, and all that? Will appreciate immensely if you could please react to this. Regards.
Alfred.
Hello Kevin,
Yes I believe you have to be your self, but I think we have to find our selves first
in order to be our selves. I believe everyone is put on this earth for a purpose and GOD has given each one of us a talent. Now he gives us our choice weather or not we want to put that talent to good use. Everybody is made differently in GOD’S unique way, he loves each one of us just the way we our.
Growing up I had all kinds of insecurities, first of all my Dad was a alcoholic so I was always worried about what everybody thought so I was embaressed to be around him. I have always
been tall and skinny and when I talk to someone my mind always gets ahead of my mouth so my words always seem to run together. I don’t know if it’s a nervous thing or what, still trying to figure it out. I know this is kind of personal but I have always been small chested and of course growing up you get teased a lot. I’ve finaly figured out that GOD has made me this way for a reason, it’s made into the person I am today faults and all.
I have worked for a Jeans wear company for 21 years, 13 of those years in the shipping
wear house, I have worked with all types of people. I start my day off with thanking GOD for a great day. I go to work with a smile on my face and greet everyone with a warm good morning. It’s nice to see smile’s on peoples faces it’s something they expect from me.
Sometimes it’s hard to keep that frame of mind when your around people with bad attitudes.I go to work and give my 100% at my job and try to give out encouragement when needed because I hate to see people in a bad mood. Working in a wear house you see alot and a hear alot, alot of stuff you don’t want to. I’m always telling people they shouldn’t be saying that or doing that out of the goodness of my heart. A friend of mine at work calls me the Pope, I had another friend tell me that I couldn’t save everybody.I know in reality I can’t save everybody, but if I can help and change one person’s life maybe it would be paid forward and it would all be well worth it. I’ve got to learn how to love that person no matter what instead of always seeing there faults and start encouraging them because believe me I’ve got plenty of my own.
I had a friend come in my husbands store yesterday that I had went to school with and graduated with and tell me that he was telling a friend the other day that I was his favorite person and that he ment it. He’s someone that ownes a business in town and he is respected in our community. To hear him say this, I was shocked at first but it meant a lot. Were not around each other alot so I must have done something to make him feel this way.
I’m telling you this because you never know when someone is watching you. We all set examples
for someone if we choose to be happy it will be contagious. I hope this makes since to someone. Thanks Kevin for all you do, you have made me see alot, I have to be true to myself, but realize that everyone is not the same, we are all made from different molds.
I encourage everyone to go out and do something for someone else.
WE REAP WHAT WE SOW!
Thanks
AND GOD BLESS EVERYONE!
Shannon
Hey Kevin, nice piece. I think I and my siblings were some of the lucky few whose parents insisted that we be ourselves, original if not unique. During elementary and high school I can’t remember ever seeking out friends because they were always around. Never gave it a thought until now. And this is what causes the good things to follow “DO THE RIGHT THING” is natural because of the security of being who you are. I don’t believe people are basically immoral, greedy, larcenous, or selfish. These are learned traits. I do believe people have basic desires to help, to give, and to love. The power for these comes from the typical high self esteem of someone who knows who they is.
Thanks again Big Guy,
Chris