I’m going to share something a little bit personal with you.
After I do, I want to ask for your feedback by posting your comments below.
If you take the time to do so, I promise to make it WELL worth your time.
Alright, here we go…
On occasion my wife teases me about all the things I used to do to impress her before we got married.
Stuff like cooking meals, opening doors for her, pulling chairs out for her, buying her little gifts of appreciation and that kind of thing.
That’s not to say that I don’t do any of those things today, because I do.
But…
When you’re raising two children, ages 2 and 4, you don’t always have a lot of time for yourselves.
It takes a concentrated effort to schedule a weekend away for mom and I.
And yes, I’ll admit, I don’t cook breakfast like I used to, but I do take the family out for breakfast on a regular basis.
I did do something recently where I scored some BIG points with Lisa.
A couple weeks ago I took her to Hollywood for the weekend so we could attend Elton John’s Oscar Party.
I’ve been meaning to share some photos on the blog because it was an awesome experience.
We got to meet some incredible people and have a hand in raising 5.2 million for his Aids Foundation.
And like I said, I scored BIG points with Lisa.
I share all this to make a simple analogy, which is that it’s so much better to go through life just being ourselves.
Rather than trying to impress people by conveying an image of ourselves that is somehow different who we really are, it’s way easier to be your authentic self.
Just be who you are, complete with your faults, because it’s ok.
I just shared a few of my faults with you.
In the process, you may have learned something about me that you didn’t know before.
So let me ask you…
Did it change your opinion of me?
Do you think any less of me?
Please be honest and post your comments below.
There’s a purpose behind this, and I’ll be back soon to let you know what it is. But I need your help in order for this to have the impact I want to make.
If you play long, you’ll really appreciate what I have to say when I come back with you.
Dedicated to your success,
Kevin Thompson
“The Automatic Income Coach”
No I dont think less of you.
Well Kevin T. You really sound like a really very nice guy with raising a family and I can remember doing all those things except cooking as my wife was an excellent cook as she was 1 of 10 chrildren on the farm back in Iowa, so I pretty much stayed out of the kitchen except when she would ask me to help her or to give her hugs and kisses WE raise 2 boys and a girl some 50 years ago, I lost her 13 years ago
This is perhaps not what I should write but here goes I am 80 Years old and in my depression and lone ness I lost around $40,000 in trying to find something on the interent to help with my S.S. but in stead lost all the savings that I ever had
AND BY THE WAY I AM NOT INTERSETED IN ANYTHING ON THE INTERENT I have lost to much.
Kevin I will say again that you must be very nice loving person,husband and may you and your wife raise your chridren with a great deal of LOVE AND TEACH THEM TO HAVE A LOT OF LOVE IN THERE HEARTS FOR OTHERS.
Nothing you said could have ever changed my mind about who and what you must be in life. Just keep and continue be a loviing father and husband.
No, I don’t think less of you either. I believe that the saying is true, people don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care, which is a part of being transparent.
I’ve received your emails in the past, but never took much time to read them all, but this caught my eye “Just Be Yourself,”
Did it change your opinion of me? Yes, you have my full attention, I’m curious in hearing more.
Do you think any less of me? NO
I have just read your answer Leonard H., and it filled me with sadness feeling the one that you have in your heart.
If you allow me to recommend you a couple of books that I am for sure if you read them capturing their deepest meaning, you will find many answers, still to the age that you have, and it will change your life and the one of who surrounds you.
The first one is “Grow Rich with Peace of Mind” of Napoleon Hill, Ed. Hawthorn Books, Inc. But this in fact, because he has another of name resemblance, but their content is not the same one. The other one is “Grow and Get Rich” you don’t please confuse them. I have both and I know what I tell you.
The second is “Metaphysics within reach of All” of Conny Méndez, an excellent Venezuelan who died already, but that she will be able to you to explain with words extremely simple, but very deep, many things that we don’t have the smallest idea without reading her.
The books that I have of her are in Spanish, but I am for sure there are in English, because she lived a lot of time in USA.
These are both better, of about thousand that I have read in my whole life.
I truly recommend them to you because from the first paragraph you are lit the light.
Greetings from Mexico.
Very nice Kevin. It is obvious to see your thoughts come from your heart. Being yourself
without any fear… genuine respect from others is automatic. The friendliness of your own self image, leaves a comfortable relationship with your readers.
You have already earned my respect in the past because you have nothing to hide. Your be yourself image stands on a very solid foundation.
“Did it change your opinion of me?” no I tend to try not to have any specific opinion
on those whom I receive e-mail´s from unless they´r close personal friends or family.
“Do you think any less of me?” no can’t see why I should think less of a guy who’s doing
his best to make his wife and family happy.
“I just shared a few of my faults with you.” it seems that you and I don’t put the same
understanding into the word faults because I can’t see any.
Hi Kevin! No, this certainly did not make me think less of you. You’re absolutely right…be yourself in everything!
I’m sure everybody has seen the bumper-sticker/sign that reads: You laugh at me because I’m different…I laugh at you because you’re all the same.
I like people who are open and honest. I normally do not have the patience
to read emails but for some strange reason yours I did. Good reading and my opinion remains the same.
Ta
Dear Kevin
No it did not change my opinion of you, because until now I do not have much opinion.
Although I purchased the full and most expensive package about a little less than one year ago, until now I did not have the time to work on the package. But now I not only will have some time but I must work actively on it because Monday April 9th 2012 I am launching a website dedicated to a concept I have developped for the protection of the intellectual property in Trademarks, Brand Names and Designs. My perception at thsi time is that you are an honest person with a passion for your training mission. I fully support that we must be ourselves and I practice this way of life myself for many years. No time for pretending or diplomacy just be myself straightforward as I am. It works.
It’s always best to be yourself. I don’t think less of you.
Kevin,
I have not had any personal contact with you, on your coaching calls or in the flesh, but I do feel lik you’re an authentic guy and that simply makes me feel more comfortable about doing business with you. Sharing some of your shortcomings or missteps just makes you seem more real, more “everyday” and less intimidating.
Yesterday I had a long talk with my current interest and he told me some things about himself that really could have been deal breakers, but instead just deepened our level of trust and will make our bond stronger. He showed vulnerability and openness that I appreciated.
I feel the same way about your sharing. It certainly did not make me think less of you.
Hey Kevin:
In a world where we receive constant messages that we are not good enough as we are. It’s nice to be told “just be yourself”.
No, didn’t change my my mind at all. I think you are a very good person – a nice guy – and you are doing what you can to make a difference in the lives of many and that’s pretty damn special (^_^)
I never really had an opinion of you. I don’t know you well enough to form one. Little treats often or big treats occasionally are a wonderful way of communicating appreciation for another person.
I spent a few years seeking to impress with either accomplishments (failed at them) or with doing something small impressively (failed there, too)…..and learnt after a few mistakes to stop TRYING to impress. The best way to BE is being self. That’ll either impress someone or not……and nobody else can change that.
Yes, I think it is important to be yourself. I just think in this society, it is sometimes challenging to know who you really are. We are moving so quickly in a fast paced world, that sometimes we forget to slow down long enough to discover who we really are.
Enjoyed your article! No reason to think any less of you. You are who you are.
Kevin,
As you continue to BE yourself and share more of yourself and your family, our love and respect and appreciation for you and yours grows.
You share your “worts & all” without putting yourself down negatively, therefore, encourage us in the same acceptance and self-respect.
May today return a portion of all the support you provide for all of us,
Carolyn
I respect the truth….good, bad, or ugly….so of anything I like u more than before.
Do you think any less of me? NO. On the contrary,I believe “Just being Yourself ” is a necessary part of being of service to others.
Hi Kevin.
Do I think less of you now, then when I got my first email from you, Well I am a bit surprised of the question, you see, any body who is a happy family man, who love his Wife and Children, and who is a straight shooter, don’t have to worry about what others say or think, I for one, and I believe most people will like and respect your honesty, I don’t know you personally, but you do come across as a nice and likeable Guy, by the way, can you keep a secret, I believe I am quite a few summers older than you, but I was also young one’s, have the most wonderful Wife, used to surprise her with Flowers, Chocolate etc. yes, I said used to,those things seem less important as you mature, as long as she knows you love her, you will be ok. I accidental burned the Toast a few times,now she do the cooking.
Not at all i do not think it has changed you as you have describe your self earlier but made me see you as a complete and a responsible man with a caring heart and i think you made your family feel at home and more secured the fact that you have been doing all this means your love for your family has not changed well i hope God bless a with a family i will care so much for just as u do bless u.
“Did it change my opinion of you?”
No, and yes. I didn’t change my opinion of you in that I already have a very positive opinion of you as a guy who shares his learning without arrogance and with genuine intention to help others. So much of what we get in the “self-help” industry is an ongoing never ending stream of promotion of “new” self-help schemes that are “for free” (as long as I spend some money) and that I absolutely cannot do without in the opinion of the proponent. I have already deleted several of these arrogant “self-promoting” jerks from my inbox and from my internet system.
I did change my opinion of you in that I have a higher opinion of your genuineness than I did before.
“Do I think less of you?”
No, I respect you more for what you are, and the knowledge and life experience that you share and I am more willing to accommodate and “understand” what you are not … yet. We all grow together.
John
No I don’t think any less of you neither any women will think less of you. I do realise women always want to be loved, but I don’t judge man from what they do before and now, I belived time and things we used to do changes, that didn’t mean we care less or we don’t love each other.
Not at all Kevin. Sounds pretty normal to me. I think the key though is to be aware as you and your spouse and family grow and change, and not get so “busy” that you forget the little things that mean so much. Keep things in perspective. I agree, it’s not about being flashy or spending a lot of money, but what you do that is genuine and sincere.
Thanks for sharing.
My opinion about you has not changed. Have never met you,
but have listened to your Tele’s. You just come across
as a friend to everyone without any hype to impress us.
Just be yourself and that’s what you have done, it works.
I didn’t hear anything that were faults? Curious interpretation of the story of family life…… abnormally normal!
It is always best to be yourself,everyone has some kind of fault, the best thing is to get rid of as much bad as possible and work on accentuating the good and keep decreasing the bad things that crops up in everyones life. GOD Bless!!!!!!!!!
I have not thought of you any differently.
It just go to see that you are human and as human subject to failure.
However, we do get another day/chance to make it right in our lives.
We all want to know that the person/s we are affiliated with is honest and can be associated with good character and integrity
You are blessed
stay blessed
Kev,
Grace is a wonderful place to live, isn’t it? I continue to be impressed with your ability to be open and transparent…
Blessings,
ssh
I quite frankly did not find anything you did offensive.
Yes, one should be oneself . I have always been pretty good about that and while it may backfire sometimes- I am happy!
Chugging on with my project and will really want to talk to you when it is ready to go!
Have a great evening! Liesel
Hi Kevin,
I don’t think any less of you. You raise a valid point,that we forget to be ourselves when we are so busy. Especially when raising children and we become different people for different places. It also highlights that once we get comfortable in relationships, we can stop doing the special little things for others that attracted us to them. Good for you in taking your wife to Hollywood for such a special occasion.
Keven,
An interesting question.
It certinly perked everyon’s curiosity. The truth of the mater is that we are all unique individuals with all of our unique strengths and weekness. We are also our owne gratest critics. The more we reveal about ourselves the more unique we become and the more saught after we become. We become the real thing, unique and special. After all, there has never in all of eternity been one just like you, and there will never be an other just like you again.
Coming up with the answer is the easy part. The true genious comes from posing the question. Well done!
No and no. I am still not sure why you even asked those questions. You wrote about yourself and your family in a perfectly natural way. The post seems consistent with things you have written previously. Maybe you are asking if you show yourself to be a normal person like all the rest of us we might think less of you as an expert? I had great respect for you prior to this post; and as I said this post is consistent with what has come before; and this post just confirms what I thought before.
Thank you.
Stuff like cooking meals, opening doors for her, pulling chairs out for her, buying her little gifts of appreciation and that kind of thing..
Such things are not particularly important for me. What is important to me is that you try to help when somebody really needs you. And you have never ever been where i have been waiting for you. Never ever. That’s is huge a problem for me.
Hi Kevin,
I would like to tell you that you always change, but the essence who you are does not change. As long as you are in contact with your true essence you will be autentic and true. That what you are, Kevin. Keep being in touch with this essence. That is what I think you are, even if one may have doubts, but when that is not coming up in your mind it is not coming from your essence.
Greetings.
Manfred
The definition of being authentic is the difference between what you say you do and actually do is so small no one could tell that you are different! You seem very authentic! Thanks for your e-mails.
Being open and honest (genuine) increases the ease to like a person.
You know who that person is and what you get with them which helps to remove any wariness of that person.
Thank you for sharing.
Hi Kevin,
I appreciate that your family is important to you.
You recognize that it is personal effort that pleases others.
These efforts score the high points.
Note: you need knowledge of who it is that you serve.
What pleased Lisa, would not do it for me!
I agree, you just need to be yourself. Life goes by so fast, it seems to only make sense to be yourself. Also, what goes around, comes around. You caught my attention and now I’m a new customer of yours with high expectations as your marketing approach is very smart and I’m banking on…. sincere, which is very appreciative.
Hi Kevin
You are doing a great job, keep it up.In being yourself you will be the best husband and father.I do not think any less of you neither have I changed my mind about you.
Somehow I sensed that you are a wonderful person from I have been receiving your mails.
Hi Kevin,
Not one bit less! I see a more complete piocture of you, which is just fine.
Thanks,
Kevin
Hi Kevin, first and foremost, I appreciate everything you are doing.
I am in recovery and I know all about putting up a fiscade in order to put on a “good guy” show so that my weaknesses and insecurities don’t show.
Some years back my wife left me and took our then 1 1/2 year old daughter to another country so that they were safe from my “antics”. Now after some years of true soul searching and making life long amends I am now, finally going to be rejoined with my family to run our own chemical trading company in Johannesburg S.A. I have truly believed that to be honest about who I am and how I feel is the key in developing any and all relationships, family and business wise.
I hear all this talk about it being a dog eat dog world, and quiet frankly I have a debilitating fear of failing as I now have my family to provide for within a new venture.
So again I want to thank you for your emails and no, being true to yourself is a leaders way of being respectful to you and ultimately to others,
Dear Kevin, I respect you and your honesty. Sondrs